I especially remember that day when Axe and I arrived from my parents' house. As I enter the dorm room in the student housing, I realized that the environment was practically uninhabitable. I stop at the door, holding my suitcase and staring at the situation. There were several people in that room. One of my roommates had invited over lots of people I did not know, and they were not respecting my space. People I had never seen before were lying on my bed, under my covers, eating over my books. There was a lot of smoke in the room, music, and clutter in the place and it was unimaginable to stay there, as I arrived exhausted, at bedtime.
A sense of abandonment and despair took over because I did not feel safe to sleep there. Then, I decided to go down to Axe's room, who lived in the same building but two floors below mine. I asked if I could sleep there, for I had nowhere else to stay. As his neighbor used to travel to his parents' land quite often, we thought it would be ok for me to stay over that night.
Every time our roommates traveled, we would invite each other over, but without invading the space of the others who were away. Our adventure was to eat and watch series on the weekend, talk, and spend a lot of time together. It was my oasis to survive that tough life. I keep thinking about how this student housing environment helped me to have the resilience I have today. I think the place where we are is our starting point and not our arrival point.
If I could face such adversities, then I am ready to face others up ahead. It's like in those games where you go through the levels and it gets harder and harder. But after you manage to go through the phases, there comes a time when you start to understand the patterns of problems and you can predict them, overcome them, avoid them. It's the game of life.
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